What if the most radical act of leadership is being honest about your gaps?

In recent conversations with several senior tech managers, one word kept coming up: confidence.

When I asked them what holds back most new managers, it wasn’t skill or experience. It was the feeling of not being ready yet.

Confidence feels like something we need before we step forward. But in my experience, confidence doesn’t come first. It follows motion. You take the step, then let readiness catch up. 

The same is true for honesty in leadership.

We talk about building trust, fostering culture, driving alignment, but it all begins with a simple question:

“Am I being honest about where I’m strong, where I’m struggling, and what I still need to learn?”

Honesty is where growth starts. And yet, it’s often the hardest thing to practice.

Early in my career, I believed that good leadership meant having the answers. I thought confidence came from appearing composed, even when I was uncertain. But over time, I learned that confidence built on knowing all the answers is fragile. Confidence built on honesty is sustainable.

Because when leaders are transparent about what they don’t know, it gives others permission to do the same. When we admit where we’re unsure, it opens space for collaboration, learning, and shared ownership. That kind of honesty doesn’t weaken your authority, it strengthens your credibility.

The leaders who make the biggest impact aren’t the ones who never doubt themselves. They’re the ones who move forward anyway and are honest about what they’re learning along the way.

Honesty creates trust. Trust creates safety. And safety is what allows teams to stretch, experiment, and grow.

That’s how you turn uncertainty into alignment and self-doubt into progress.

A small practice for the week ahead.

In your next one-on-one or team meeting, share one thing you’re still figuring out and ask: “What do you think I might be missing here?”

That single act models both humility and confidence. The kind of confidence that inspires others to step forward, too.

Because the truth is, great leadership isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about moving forward with honesty, learning in public, and creating a culture where others feel safe to do the same.

💭 What’s one area where being honest with yourself could move you forward this week?